i have no problem with this. when you're ready, you're ready. who am i to argue with true love?
i feel like this girl, and soooo many others who are wanting to find The One, simply aren't ready.
i get texts sometimes that say things like, "i just want to move away and not come back until i'm happy," followed by, "i met a boy. he's perfect. i think he might be the one." only to hear a few days later that she's no longer dating him and that she just wants to meet a great guy. she's convinced that she can't be happy alone, that it truly takes someone else to make her whole.
there really is no problem with this. i love her and would do anything for her.
i honestly want her to find that great guy...except for the fact that i know she's not ready.
i love her. and eventually she's going to make a great guy very, very happy.
but that's not right now...she just doesn't see that.
my only thought is this:
if you can't stand to be with yourself, how do you expect any man to want to stay with you? please take the time to sort out your life before you complicate it more by adding a man to the mix.
until you wake up and realize that you're letting the sand slip through the hourglass of your life, you're going to be miserable. being single shouldn't feel like a life sentence. it is NOT a punishment. i promise.
a year ago, i was that girl. the one with the wedding folder of dresses i liked, cakes that were gorgeous, reception venues, flowers, and bridesmaid dresses.
i had planned the house, the jobs, the kids, the schools, EVERYTHING about my life. the only missing piece was Mr. Right. unfortunately, life just doesn't work that way...
i spent the better part of a year looking for the guy i'd eventually marry. he didn't show up and with each passing day, i grew more and more impatient, asking myself why he wasn't coming, what was wrong with me, and assuming the very worst. i came to the conclusion that i would die alone and became cynical towards men and love. there was no way it even existed. i looked for the bad in every relationship around me, and i came to the conclusion that every single person in every marriage was completely miserable.
it took moving home and seeing my cute parents to realize my mistake.
yeah, they fight sometimes. they argue over things that seem stupid to me. they even give each other the silent treatment from time to time.
but then they make up and it's literally like watching a couple love-sick teenagers.
my dad get sneaky and grabs my mom's butt sometimes.
they kiss. they make jokes about sex. they laugh together. and they're still just in love.
they go on dates. they do cute things. they're perfect together.
and if i'm being completely honest in the very depths of my soul, i don't want that.
not yet, anyways.
hell, i'm 20 years old. i've probably got sixty or seventy years left in me.
there is NO REASON to rush into love or marriage.
getting married complicates everything. being single, at least right now, is perfect for me.
i've got things i want to do, things that probably wouldn't see the light of day if i were to get married.
i want to travel. i want to buy my bike. i love that i can get up and run anywhere i please with no one to answer to.
being single isn't a death sentence at all...it's a time to fall in love with yourself. to discover every little quirk, to laugh until you cry, to sing at the top of your lungs on the journey to wherever it is you're headed next.
my dear friend gave me a keychain that says, "Every step of the journey is the journey." it's the cute quote at the top of my blog. the one you see every time you stalk me. you know, the one you overlook getting to the good stuff. read it again. right now. REALLY let it sink in. and then live it.
there are a million beautiful little things surrounding you every single day that you never bother to notice.
live those moments. breathe them in. everything will come in good time.
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